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The Bullies Wear Suits

“Do I get that raise?”

“In this economy, I would have to be stupid to give you a raise.  You’re lucky to have a job.  You’re not that bright you know, but you’re a good person.  I like you, really, I do.  But again, you’re not too bright but because I like you,  you’re still here.”

“About that raise?”

“If you worked 24/7 your work would not be as good as my least performing employee.  Be glad that you have a job at all!  You do want your job, don’t you?”

“Not really, but I’m willing to work for you because I’m your only employee.  Remember, everyone quit because you’re a bully.  You’re stupid, mean, incompetent, and can’t do your job!  If I quit, then you can no longer be a boss.  Get it?  You do want your job, don’t you  Now, about that raise!”

Most workplace bullying scenarios do not end up this well.  According to a 2007 Workplace Bullying Institute survey by WBI-Zogby, bullying creates stress related health issues that include debilitating anxiety; panic attacks; clinical depression, and post traumatic stress.  The study cites that PTSD occurs in 30% women and 21% men.  Even if you’re not a direct target of bullying, the study reports that witnessing bullying is vicariously traumatizing and can produce the same health issues.  WBI-Zogby reported  that out of 7,740 respondents to a survey, 37% of workers had been bullied and that 72% had been bosses.  However, any worker can be targeted by anyone in his or her work environment.

Currently, in New Jersey, employees are protected from workplace bullying by the “Healthy Workplace Act” Senate No. 333.  The synopsis of the Act cites that, “the social and economic well-being of the State is dependent upon healthy and productive employees.”  According to the Act, “it shall be an unlawful employment practice for an employer to subject an employee to abusive conduct or to permit an abusive work environment” and to retaliate in any manner against an employee because of a  complaint or legal action.

This bill was originally sponsored on March 5, 2010 as A673 by Assemblywomen Sheila Y. Oliver (D), Valerie Vanieri-Huttle (D),  and Linda R. Greenstein (D).  In 2011, Greenstein moved to the Senate to complete the term and then introduced the same bill as S2515.  On Jan. 10, 2012, Senator Greenstein introduced the bill to the Senate as S333.  It has been referred to the Senate Labor Committee for the 2012-2013 state legislation session.  Senator Linda R. Greenstein (D-14) can be reached at sengreenstein@njleg.org.   Check with your particular state for workplace bullying legislative updates.

Basically, it’s simple.  You can no longer be a bully in school or in the workplace, no matter who you are.  Similarly, school administrators are legally responsible for maintaining the health and well-being of each student against abusive behavior.  The coined phrase, “boys will be boys” and “girls will be girls” must be eliminated.  So if there are any bullies out there, JUST STOP IT, and make it a good day for everyone.

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.       Until tomorrow…

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Getting Through the Day

“Is is true?”

“Is what true?”

“Today is your fiftieth birthday?”

“Oh no, please not the ‘turning 50 crap.’  But for your information, I am not over the hill, thank you.  I have reached the hill!”

“What’s it like to have finally reached that infamous hill?”

“It feels somewhat fulfilling, maybe a little scary because people will expect me to put the years of wisdom I have accumulated towards something significant.”

“In that case have you done it yet?”

“Have I done what?”

“Reached the goal you wanted to achieve before you turned fifty?”

“It depends on what goal.  If you mean making sure my kids are successful, then the answer is yes.  If you mean do I have my dream job, then the answer is no.”

“So you’re saying that you’ve never quite figured it out.”

“Something like that, but I have accumulated years of wisdom!”

“So why don’t you apply that wisdom to creating your dream job?”

“I have a job.”

“Is it your dream job?”

“No, it’s a job I hate.  My boss is a bully.  I am harassed all day.”

“Why don’t you quit?”

“Can’t.  Too many responsibilities.  Sometimes I feel like a kid on the school playground.”

“Were you bullied in school?”

“Just by one kid and someone like him grew up to become my boss!”

“How did you handle the bullying in school?”

“Back then, you learned to run fast or tough it out, just to get through the day.  That’s what I’m doing now in this job, I suppose. ‘ Toughing’ it out just to get through the day.”

“Bummer.”

“Who says that anymore?”

“I know, sorry, it slipped out.  Anyway, it’s never too late to figure it out.”

“I can’t make any changes in my life.  I have too many responsibilities.”

“Yeah, yeah, yeah.  Do you think that you’ll ever have that dream job?”

“I’m fifty already.”

“So what does that mean?”

“It means that last year I was forty-nine and next year, hopefully, I’ll be fifty-one.”

“Sort of stuck in the middle?”

“Something like that.”

“So what’s the problem?”

“I don’t think that there is a problem.  I’m basically happy.”

“Being basically happy is a wonderful goal, yeah, really!  Look, why don’t you just do it?”

“You’re absolutely right.  I should quit my job or at least end this harassment at work and pursue my dream job.  But I don’t know what I can do about the bullying at work.”

“There is a law against bullying in the workplace.”

“Really, didn’t know that.  I’ll look into it and make a change today!”

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.       Until tomorrow…

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