He loves you not because he is supposed to or says it out of habit, but because he really does. You are not his dream girl or playmate. “I never thought someone like you would fall for someone like me,” is an unflattering sentiment that fades quickly. You are his connection in life, not his connection to life. His life functions well without you which means you do not complete him. He was a complete person before he met you. What you do is add joy to his life and that in turn brings you joy. Joy is simple! It’s a smile that says I know who you are and am happy about that. It’s a feeling of closeness when you are in separate rooms. It is knowing that there is someone to turn to when you are spinning from fear or confusion and that he will be there to catch you if you were to fall. If he were not there to catch you, you would still land safely. But joy is a comfort of having a choice to fall into safe arms and rest for a bit and to know that it doesn’t make you weak or insecure.
Being loved is having that joy in life. It is not having him walk behind you to see if you are going to get there or walk in front of you to lead you where he thinks you ought to go. He’ll walk beside you to share the journey and realize that’s it’s your choice to step ahead, step back, or stay just where you are as it is his choice to do the same.
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