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Whose Constitutional Rights Are We Protecting?

People say that having a gun pointed at you is the most terrifying experience. Never will society comprehend the terror that twenty innocent six and seven-year old children in Newtown, Connecticut experienced when they were slaughtered by a Glock 9-MM, a Sig Sauer 9-MM and a Bushmaster.223-Caliber Assault Rifle shooting five bullets a second. One bullet would have easily killed a child – multiple shots are maniacal. Society gets the argument that Adam Lanza did the killing and not the guns. He could have used a bomb, a knife, or whatever. But his mother owned the assault weapons that were accessible to him. Assuredly, when Nancy Lanza legally purchased these weapons she was not concerned that they would cause her own death, the death of her son, Adam, and the death of twenty-six innocent people. But what did she need these particular guns for? Would not one gun have provided protection?

Gun enthusiasts are vigilant about their Second Amendment right to purchase whatever type of guns they want. They want what they want. It would seem that by now, with twenty-six names added to the roster of others in this country who have succumbed to their death at the hands of these maniacal mass murderers that society’s majority overrules the minority and has to say, guess what, the Second Amendment does not entitle a non-military person to store weapons of mass destruction in his or her home.

Let’s make this argument ridiculously simplistic. If I am stuck in traffic, it would be nice to open a bottle of wine and have a glass or two while I wait it out. I’m not an alcoholic, in fact, I rarely drink. I am a very responsible person who could safely drink while stuck in traffic and then proceed to drive safely when traffic lets up. But there is a law that prohibits drinking and driving that’s designed to protect society. Unless I choose to break the law, I can’t have a glass of wine while I am operating a motor vehicle, no matter how much I want it or feel entitled to it. The law does not prohibit me from drinking – just not when I am driving a car. Or how about the sixteen-year-old who wants to purchase a pack of cigarettes. Guess what? He or she can’t! That person has the right to smoke and most likely will find a way to get cigarettes, but not by purchasing them legally. A person might want to drive a car but lacks driving training and documentation. Guess what? He or she will not be given a license to drive! It does not mean they he or she won’t drive anyway, but not legally.

There are people who will break the law because they want something as there are people who won’t break the law who realize they can’t have everything that they want. Adam Lanza had a mission and it would be naive to think that gun control would have prevented him from carrying out his mission. But maybe gun control, by means of outlawing possession of mass destruction, the kind of legal guns found in his mother’s home, would have prevented his choice of arsenal and lessened the inconceivable suffering of those twenty innocent children who succumbed unmercifully to multiple bullets ripping through their tiny bodies. Isn’t that reason enough?

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.

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A Natural Disaster Does Not Discriminate

When you’re cold and hungry, your only focus is to get warm and to get food.  Although a distraction would be nice, there is nothing else that will ease the pain of being cold and hungry, including the New York City Marathon that was scheduled for Sunday, November 4, 2012.  The people who are still suffering from Hurricane Sandy need to celebrate their power being restored and not celebrate someone’s athletic success.  This is not to belittle the runners but Sunday was not the time, as Mayor Michael Bloomberg and New York Road Runners officials came to realize. Even when the power is restored and people resume their normal lives, the homeless will continue to suffer from the cold and from hunger.  Shelters are available and there are many resources to aid the homeless.  Nevertheless, being cold and hungry, whether it’s temporary or permanent, hurts the same whoever you are.  A natural disaster does not discriminate. 

The photograph below was taken on 126th Street in Harlem, in 1985.  I don’t know what circumstances created this gentleman’s situation, but he graciously granted me permission to take his photograph.  That was twenty-seven years ago and I’m certain that many have since taken his place.  On Tuesday, voters will have sorted through all the rhetoric before they decide which lever to pull to select the next president of the United States of America.  Although much has been promised by President Obama and by Governor Romney, only time will tell which promises will be kept.  When you place your hand on the lever this Tuesday, will you remember the rhetoric or this image?

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

126th Street, Harlem 1985

 (c) 1985 Linda Stone Cohen/STEPOUTOFTHEBOXDOTCOM (stepoutofthebox.com).  Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited.  Excerpts and links may be used provided that full and clear credit is given to Linda Stone Cohen and STEPOUTOFTHEBOXDOTCOM (stepoutofthebox.com) with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

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Who’s Right and Who’s Wrong

As I wrote in my blog on global warming, someone is right and someone is wrong.  On Monday night during the third presidential debate, President Obama and Governor Romney will try to convince American voters who’s right and who’s wrong.

Obviously, each candidate believes he is the right choice to lead America for the next four years.  With clearly defined opposing views and polls showing that Americans are basically evenly divided – there is no middle ground.  Half of Americans are right so consequently half are wrong.

If Romney had been elected president four years ago instead of Obama, would his decision to “let Detroit go bankrupt” been the right decision?  Would Americans be better off today that they were four years ago?  If Obama is not reelected, will America regret it fours years from now?  Governor Romney is making  his bid for change.  How different is his bid for change today than President Obama’s bid was four years ago?

Economists run data and provide charts to illustrate probabilities.  Political analysts dissect words while experts predict truthful motivation by analyzing body language.  But all in all, it seems that only time will tell.

Did President Bush set out in his first year to do all the things that have defined his presidency?  Since  time is the factor in assessing the results of a president’s cumulative decision-making, it seems that a strong indicator for choice should be character.

During the third debate,  Americans should do more observing than listening.  Haven’t we really heard it all by now?  At this point in the campaign, each candidate should be exhausted.  Who will show it?  Will tempers flare?  Who will appear as a leader of the free world and who will provocatively appear condescending.  Inasmuch as the third debate will focus on foreign affairs, who will provide the best “presidential look” for our allies and adversaries?  Remember the truth in the familiar saying – a picture is worth a thousand words.

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.       Until tomorrow…

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Editorial: The Vice Presidential Debate

When you’re hungry, all you can think about is getting something to eat.  When you are not able to feed your kids properly, all you can think about is how you have failed them.  All other issues are secondary and this depletes American human productivity.  In his closing statement at last night’s vice presidential debate,  Vice President Joe Biden focused on the middle -class and stressed that “all they’re looking for is a fair shot.  People want peace of mind,” he said.

Peace of mind is a  valuable commodity that has sadly been crushed in this economy.  Americans are struggling to get it back.  They want more out of life than to just get through the day, although that in and of itself is an achievement in today’s world.  Americans want to go to work, bring home a paycheck and take care of their families.  Biden outlined how to get peace of mind back into America with jobs being the primary focus.  He emphasized that a strong middle-class is the backbone of this economy.  If an individual cannot afford to buy food or afford a place to live, then there is no growth for anyone in this society.

Moderator, Martha Raddatz, carefully crafted her questions to elicit a – look the American people in the eye and tell them the truth – response from each candidate.  In addition to jobs, she asked questions about Iran; the war in Afghanistan; Medicare and Social Security; taxes; and finally, abortion.

Congressman Ryan stressed that Iran could not be allowed to make a nuclear bomb and pointed out how Iran was four years closer to having a bomb, and that the water downed sanctions were not enough.  Biden pressed Ryan for an alternative solution, other than war, and cited how Americans could not engage in another Middle Eastern war.  Ryan protested having troops on the ground in Iran but he could not convincingly deny that a military intervention was off the table.

Biden promised that the war in Afghanistan would end in 2014.  Ryan agreed with that date while at the same time criticizing the rigid timetable, citing that the Taliban would see it as an opportunity to wait it out, and then take over the region.  Biden responded that trained Afghan troops would be in control by then, and that America has the backing of its allies for this timetable, an indicator of strength in leadership.

Both candidates differed in their approach to the status quo of Medicare and Social Security, where Biden adamantly refused to alter promised provisions while Ryan adamantly cited the need for reform to maintain sustainability.  The issue of taxes again reiterated how Republicans are blocking an extension of the middle-class tax cuts.  “It’s about time they take responsibility instead of signing pledges to avoid raising taxes,” Biden said of the Republicans.

Despite Biden’s aggressive and sometimes disrespectful behavior towards Ryan with his laughter, unflattering grin, and interruptions, Biden demonstrated a competence in foreign and domestic affairs and asserted his genuine concern for the prosperity of the middle-class.  Although Ryan’s congressional expertise does not compare to Biden’s years of foreign policy experience, Ryan demonstrated a confidence in his knowledge of world and domestic affairs and stressed how he and Governor Romney are committed to serving all Americans, even the 47 percent.

With the election fast approaching, Americans are desperate for peace of mind and less piece of mind.  During the second presidential debate, it would be hopeful if President Obama could remember a very important lesson in leadership – never let them see you sweat! Obama admitted in an interview with Diane Sawyer for ABC News, that he did indeed “sweat” during the first debate.  He said that, “Governor Romney had a good night and I had a bad night” and added “Well, it’s not the first time I’ve had a bad night.  But I think what’s important is the fundamentals of what this race is about haven’t changed.  You know, Governor Romney went to a lotta trouble to try to hide what his positions are.”  Obama continued to compare his performance during the debate to sports.  It’s fine to sweat on the basketball court, but not as a leader of the free world during a debate.  So to coin what Bill O’Reilly might ask, “what say you?” Mr. President. 

President Obama should heed the advice given to corporate women – don’t ever let them see you cry.  Or in the words of an actor, the audience will only know that you messed up if you tell them.  President Obama told Sawyer that he basically messed up.  Those who watched the debate kind of knew that, but then again, his performance could have been a strategy to put Governor Romney off guard for the second debate.  Well now, we obviously know that it wasn’t a strategy.  With the election a few weeks away, gaining the confidence of the American voters will be tough for all four candidates.  Pun intended, which of these four gentlemen will “fit the bill “and get this country headed in the right direction? 

(2012) Linda Stone Cohen All Right Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom, and humility.       Until tomorrow…

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The Bullies Wear Suits

“Do I get that raise?”

“In this economy, I would have to be stupid to give you a raise.  You’re lucky to have a job.  You’re not that bright you know, but you’re a good person.  I like you, really, I do.  But again, you’re not too bright but because I like you,  you’re still here.”

“About that raise?”

“If you worked 24/7 your work would not be as good as my least performing employee.  Be glad that you have a job at all!  You do want your job, don’t you?”

“Not really, but I’m willing to work for you because I’m your only employee.  Remember, everyone quit because you’re a bully.  You’re stupid, mean, incompetent, and can’t do your job!  If I quit, then you can no longer be a boss.  Get it?  You do want your job, don’t you  Now, about that raise!”

Most workplace bullying scenarios do not end up this well.  According to a 2007 Workplace Bullying Institute survey by WBI-Zogby, bullying creates stress related health issues that include debilitating anxiety; panic attacks; clinical depression, and post traumatic stress.  The study cites that PTSD occurs in 30% women and 21% men.  Even if you’re not a direct target of bullying, the study reports that witnessing bullying is vicariously traumatizing and can produce the same health issues.  WBI-Zogby reported  that out of 7,740 respondents to a survey, 37% of workers had been bullied and that 72% had been bosses.  However, any worker can be targeted by anyone in his or her work environment.

Currently, in New Jersey, employees are protected from workplace bullying by the “Healthy Workplace Act” Senate No. 333.  The synopsis of the Act cites that, “the social and economic well-being of the State is dependent upon healthy and productive employees.”  According to the Act, “it shall be an unlawful employment practice for an employer to subject an employee to abusive conduct or to permit an abusive work environment” and to retaliate in any manner against an employee because of a  complaint or legal action.

This bill was originally sponsored on March 5, 2010 as A673 by Assemblywomen Sheila Y. Oliver (D), Valerie Vanieri-Huttle (D),  and Linda R. Greenstein (D).  In 2011, Greenstein moved to the Senate to complete the term and then introduced the same bill as S2515.  On Jan. 10, 2012, Senator Greenstein introduced the bill to the Senate as S333.  It has been referred to the Senate Labor Committee for the 2012-2013 state legislation session.  Senator Linda R. Greenstein (D-14) can be reached at sengreenstein@njleg.org.   Check with your particular state for workplace bullying legislative updates.

Basically, it’s simple.  You can no longer be a bully in school or in the workplace, no matter who you are.  Similarly, school administrators are legally responsible for maintaining the health and well-being of each student against abusive behavior.  The coined phrase, “boys will be boys” and “girls will be girls” must be eliminated.  So if there are any bullies out there, JUST STOP IT, and make it a good day for everyone.

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.       Until tomorrow…

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Getting Through the Day

“Is is true?”

“Is what true?”

“Today is your fiftieth birthday?”

“Oh no, please not the ‘turning 50 crap.’  But for your information, I am not over the hill, thank you.  I have reached the hill!”

“What’s it like to have finally reached that infamous hill?”

“It feels somewhat fulfilling, maybe a little scary because people will expect me to put the years of wisdom I have accumulated towards something significant.”

“In that case have you done it yet?”

“Have I done what?”

“Reached the goal you wanted to achieve before you turned fifty?”

“It depends on what goal.  If you mean making sure my kids are successful, then the answer is yes.  If you mean do I have my dream job, then the answer is no.”

“So you’re saying that you’ve never quite figured it out.”

“Something like that, but I have accumulated years of wisdom!”

“So why don’t you apply that wisdom to creating your dream job?”

“I have a job.”

“Is it your dream job?”

“No, it’s a job I hate.  My boss is a bully.  I am harassed all day.”

“Why don’t you quit?”

“Can’t.  Too many responsibilities.  Sometimes I feel like a kid on the school playground.”

“Were you bullied in school?”

“Just by one kid and someone like him grew up to become my boss!”

“How did you handle the bullying in school?”

“Back then, you learned to run fast or tough it out, just to get through the day.  That’s what I’m doing now in this job, I suppose. ‘ Toughing’ it out just to get through the day.”

“Bummer.”

“Who says that anymore?”

“I know, sorry, it slipped out.  Anyway, it’s never too late to figure it out.”

“I can’t make any changes in my life.  I have too many responsibilities.”

“Yeah, yeah, yeah.  Do you think that you’ll ever have that dream job?”

“I’m fifty already.”

“So what does that mean?”

“It means that last year I was forty-nine and next year, hopefully, I’ll be fifty-one.”

“Sort of stuck in the middle?”

“Something like that.”

“So what’s the problem?”

“I don’t think that there is a problem.  I’m basically happy.”

“Being basically happy is a wonderful goal, yeah, really!  Look, why don’t you just do it?”

“You’re absolutely right.  I should quit my job or at least end this harassment at work and pursue my dream job.  But I don’t know what I can do about the bullying at work.”

“There is a law against bullying in the workplace.”

“Really, didn’t know that.  I’ll look into it and make a change today!”

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.       Until tomorrow…

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PEANUT BUTTER and JELLY SANDWICH

The man sat down on the park bench over by the tree, the same bench that he sat on everyday for nearly ten years to eat his lunch.  He could have eaten his lunch anywhere since he was the CEO of a major corporation that employed hundreds of people.  Before the man took out his lunch, he scrutinized the area for paparazzi and when he felt that the coast was clear, he removed a brown paper bag from inside his coat.  He then removed his sandwich from the bag.  Just as he took a bite, he was suddenly caught off guard by a stranger.  The stranger was not paparazzi so the man continued to eat his sandwich. 

“Why are you eating a peanut butter and jelly sandwich?” the stranger asked.

“Because I like peanut butter and jelly sandwiches,” the man replied.

“Out of work, are ya?”

“Obviously, you don’t know me, and that’s good, but I’m the CEO of a major corporation in that building right over there,” the man said as he pointed to the skyscraper.

“Right, like it doesn’t have an executive suite or betcha you can afford to eat in any restaurant,” the stranger said.

“It does and I could but I like peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and that’s my secret.”

“Okay, so you took your kid’s lunch by mistake and you don’t have any money.  You’re wearing that fancy suit because you’re trying to get a job!  It’s okay, buddy, we’re all in this unemployment crisis together.  I’m out of work now going on two years.” 

The man continued to eat his sandwich.  “Actually, I have lots of money.  I just happen to like peanut butter and jelly sandwiches,” the man admitted.  The stranger did not respond and then the man realized that he had just told this stranger that he had lots of money.  “I don’t know you and obviously your don’t know me but I’ve just admitted to you my darkest secret,” the man said.

“That you have lots of money?”

“No, that’s public information and nothing the paparazzi is interested in.  My secret is that I like peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.  Do you think that I could sit in the executive lounge and eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich or order it at a restaurant without seeing my face plastered on the front page news?  But now that I’ve told you that I have lots of money, what do you plan to do?”

“Would you by any chance have an extra sandwich?” the stranger asked.  The man reached into the brown paper bag and took out a sandwich and handed it to the stranger.

The next day the man walked over to the park bench where he sat everyday for nearly ten years to eat his lunch.   This time the stranger was sitting on the bench.  The man nodded hello to the stranger, checked for paparazzi, and when the coast was clear, he sat down and removed a brown paper bag from inside his coat.   He then removed a peanut butter and jelly sandwich from the bag.   “Would you like one?” the man asked.

“Oh no, I couldn’t take your lunch,” the stranger said.  “You gave me your second sandwich yesterday and you must have been hungry.”

“Not at all,” the man said.   “I never eat more than one.”

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom, and humility.      Until tomorrow…

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Redefining the American Dream

The American spirit is stronger than ever, even though the road to economic recovery has been slow.  Former President Bill Clinton said in his speech to the Democratic convention last night (09/05/2012), that Obama inherited a wreck of an economy and acknowledged that people were not yet feeling a positive change.  Clinton then pointed out that not one of his predecessors, including himself, could have fixed this mess in four years.  Americans have had to adjust their lifestyle as a result of a job loss, the loss of a home, or health issues.  The burning question of this election is, “Are you better off today than you were four years ago?”    

He drives to work at the break of dawn to a job that he hates.  The job is below his pay grade but it’s a job so he holds his head high and increases the volume on the radio.  He and his wife always laughed at the traffic reports of congestion on the highway at 5:00 am and  wondered who those predawn travelers were and where they were going.  He used to leave for work at 7:00 am.  She used to leave for work at 8:30 am, after the kids got on the school bus.  Now, she returns home after walking them to the bus stop.   She embraces the positive side of having more time in the morning and not having to wear high heels!  But she endures the stress of her effort to keep the sparkle in her children’s eyes, a roof over their heads, and food on the table.  She thinks about her husband’s morning commute on the dark highway and knows that he is tired even before he begins his workday.  So she works even harder at home and applies her managerial skills to stretch the food budget, cook healthy meals and keep the house clean so it is pleasant when her husband returns.  Her female friends chide her about assuming all the household chores and setting the “cause” back twenty years.  She responds that her family is her cause and that it is not she who is driving during the predawn hours.  Reconsidering her opinion of the 1960’s TV moms, she doesn’t feel that keeping the “home hearth” is beneath her pay grade.  She prepares inexpensive yet healthy meals from recipes in the cookbooks that she never had time to read when take-out was affordable and more convenient and when the children thought that pizza was the greatest dinner on earth.  Instead, she feels relieved that the cable was disconnected and that her children now converse with one another at the dinner table as they eat a home cooked meal.  As the weeks turn into months, she accepts the fact that her life may never be what it was and at the same time she questions if she would want it to be that way again.  She is surprisingly content from the simple pleasures of family and home and is no longer fueled by the need to construct her life in the image of a preconceived notion, like trying to assemble a puzzle with fragmented pieces.   However, with those fragmented pieces,  she  moves forward with fortitude and creativity and redefines her life in the image of all who struggled before her and finally realizes that to have the freedom to do this, she is after all, living the American dream.

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.   Until tomorrow

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