Author Archives: Linda Stone Cohen

Thought for the Day 11/30/12

Sometimes when you’re in a restaurant for lunch and it’s crowded and the seating is limited, you might find yourself sharing a table with a stranger.  Assuming that you’re alone and your objective is to eat, you might leave the restaurant never having said a word to the person sitting next to you or directly across from you.  This situation is not unusual or uncommon but in reality, it is odd to think that maybe one day, say in ten years, you might be sitting next to that same person on a bus and never realize that at one time you shared a table at lunch.

(c)2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.

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Just Don’t Name Your Car Betsy

I listened to a radio commercial that promoted a certain motor oil to keep your car happy.  Wow, a happy car.  Evidently a car runs better when it’s happy.  So what is wrong with the car that is stuck on the side of the road?  It has a bad attitude.  What can you do with a car that has a bad attitude?  Just send it to the garage and forget to pick it up.  There’s no Sunday drive for you, Betsy!

How many of you have named your car?  “Come on Betsy, we can make it to the gas station – don’t give up on me now girl!”  I want to know why cars are synonymous with female names instead of male names.  What’s wrong with, “Come on Phil, we can make it, don’t give up on me now!”  Or how about, “Bob, we’re almost there, don’t stall!”  Have you ever met Jaguar Joe?

Since people spend most of their life inside a car, it seems natural to endow that car with animism.   I swear that my car was filled with soul and had saved my life more than once.  For example, one time I was driving home from Pennsylvania to New Jersey.  I left Pennsylvania at 10:00 at night and while on the Pennsylvania Turnpike, the lights on the dashboard started to dim and the engine started to lose power.  I chastised myself for leaving at 10:00 at night and prayed, “Just get me home.”  Still, I felt that at any moment the car would stall.  Finally, I crossed over into New Jersey and felt a little safer.  Another hour and a half to go.  White knuckles on the steering wheel, I kept praying just to get home.  Approaching the last half hour, I got off the highway and took the back route.  At least it would be safer if I had to pull over.  There were many traffic lights on this road and I feared that if I stopped for a red light, the car would stall and not start again.  Amazingly, the traffic lights stayed green the entire route!  As I rounded the last block to my house, the engine’s power dwindled.  At least breaking down one block from my house would not have been as bad as breaking down on the Pennsylvania or New Jersey Turnpike.  My little car kept chugging along.  Five houses away, three, two and finally, right in front of my house, my car lost all power.  I unglued my hands from the steering wheel and started to cry.  It was too surreal.  The next day I had my car towed to my mechanic, who replaced the alternator.  Considering the situation, my car had a very good attitude.

That incident happened four years ago.  At 247,000 miles and with a cracked manifold, I recently sold my car to a mechanic who will fix it inexpensively and use the car for himself.  Still, it saddened me to part with my loyal car.  It’s just a conglomerate of steel, I kept telling myself.  When I handed the keys to the new owner, I told him the Pennsylvania story and then added the story about the time when oddly, something caused my foot to lift off the accelerator for a few seconds.  That few seconds saved me from being hit broadside from a car running a red light through the intersection I had been approaching.  He seemed to identify and appreciate the stories.  I am pleased with the new owner of my car and believe that my car will be happy – just don’t name it Betsy.

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.

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Thoughts for Today

I was shopping in a well-known department store the other day and noticed that ALL signs were written in English and in Spanish, except for this one:  DANGER HIGH VOLTAGE.

When you stub your toe and shout out in pain, the pain seems to intensify as you realize how many more times in your life you will inevitably stub your toe again!

Which comes first – the sticker that covers the bad spot on the tomato or the bad spot on the tomato?

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.

DAY OF RECKONING, TUESDAY 11/13/12:  HOPE EVERYONE WHO HAS BEEN WITHOUT POWER FROM HURRICANE SANDY HAS HAD IT RESTORED.

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A Natural Disaster Does Not Discriminate

When you’re cold and hungry, your only focus is to get warm and to get food.  Although a distraction would be nice, there is nothing else that will ease the pain of being cold and hungry, including the New York City Marathon that was scheduled for Sunday, November 4, 2012.  The people who are still suffering from Hurricane Sandy need to celebrate their power being restored and not celebrate someone’s athletic success.  This is not to belittle the runners but Sunday was not the time, as Mayor Michael Bloomberg and New York Road Runners officials came to realize. Even when the power is restored and people resume their normal lives, the homeless will continue to suffer from the cold and from hunger.  Shelters are available and there are many resources to aid the homeless.  Nevertheless, being cold and hungry, whether it’s temporary or permanent, hurts the same whoever you are.  A natural disaster does not discriminate. 

The photograph below was taken on 126th Street in Harlem, in 1985.  I don’t know what circumstances created this gentleman’s situation, but he graciously granted me permission to take his photograph.  That was twenty-seven years ago and I’m certain that many have since taken his place.  On Tuesday, voters will have sorted through all the rhetoric before they decide which lever to pull to select the next president of the United States of America.  Although much has been promised by President Obama and by Governor Romney, only time will tell which promises will be kept.  When you place your hand on the lever this Tuesday, will you remember the rhetoric or this image?

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

126th Street, Harlem 1985

 (c) 1985 Linda Stone Cohen/STEPOUTOFTHEBOXDOTCOM (stepoutofthebox.com).  Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited.  Excerpts and links may be used provided that full and clear credit is given to Linda Stone Cohen and STEPOUTOFTHEBOXDOTCOM (stepoutofthebox.com) with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

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Who’s Right and Who’s Wrong

As I wrote in my blog on global warming, someone is right and someone is wrong.  On Monday night during the third presidential debate, President Obama and Governor Romney will try to convince American voters who’s right and who’s wrong.

Obviously, each candidate believes he is the right choice to lead America for the next four years.  With clearly defined opposing views and polls showing that Americans are basically evenly divided – there is no middle ground.  Half of Americans are right so consequently half are wrong.

If Romney had been elected president four years ago instead of Obama, would his decision to “let Detroit go bankrupt” been the right decision?  Would Americans be better off today that they were four years ago?  If Obama is not reelected, will America regret it fours years from now?  Governor Romney is making  his bid for change.  How different is his bid for change today than President Obama’s bid was four years ago?

Economists run data and provide charts to illustrate probabilities.  Political analysts dissect words while experts predict truthful motivation by analyzing body language.  But all in all, it seems that only time will tell.

Did President Bush set out in his first year to do all the things that have defined his presidency?  Since  time is the factor in assessing the results of a president’s cumulative decision-making, it seems that a strong indicator for choice should be character.

During the third debate,  Americans should do more observing than listening.  Haven’t we really heard it all by now?  At this point in the campaign, each candidate should be exhausted.  Who will show it?  Will tempers flare?  Who will appear as a leader of the free world and who will provocatively appear condescending.  Inasmuch as the third debate will focus on foreign affairs, who will provide the best “presidential look” for our allies and adversaries?  Remember the truth in the familiar saying – a picture is worth a thousand words.

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.       Until tomorrow…

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What Do Women Want?

It’s not that women want to be considered equal to men.

 Women just want that issue to be non existent.

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom, and humility.           Until tomorrow…

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Global Warming

Global warming is destroying the earth.                                                                                          

No it isn’t.

Yes it is.

                                        Who’s right?

                                         Who’s wrong?

I’d rather be right about being wrong.

Wrong that global warming is destroying the earth?

No, wrong that it is.

                                        But it isn’t.

                                        But it is.

I don’t think we should continue this conversation.

At least you’re right about that!

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.        Until tomorrow…

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Editorial: The Vice Presidential Debate

When you’re hungry, all you can think about is getting something to eat.  When you are not able to feed your kids properly, all you can think about is how you have failed them.  All other issues are secondary and this depletes American human productivity.  In his closing statement at last night’s vice presidential debate,  Vice President Joe Biden focused on the middle -class and stressed that “all they’re looking for is a fair shot.  People want peace of mind,” he said.

Peace of mind is a  valuable commodity that has sadly been crushed in this economy.  Americans are struggling to get it back.  They want more out of life than to just get through the day, although that in and of itself is an achievement in today’s world.  Americans want to go to work, bring home a paycheck and take care of their families.  Biden outlined how to get peace of mind back into America with jobs being the primary focus.  He emphasized that a strong middle-class is the backbone of this economy.  If an individual cannot afford to buy food or afford a place to live, then there is no growth for anyone in this society.

Moderator, Martha Raddatz, carefully crafted her questions to elicit a – look the American people in the eye and tell them the truth – response from each candidate.  In addition to jobs, she asked questions about Iran; the war in Afghanistan; Medicare and Social Security; taxes; and finally, abortion.

Congressman Ryan stressed that Iran could not be allowed to make a nuclear bomb and pointed out how Iran was four years closer to having a bomb, and that the water downed sanctions were not enough.  Biden pressed Ryan for an alternative solution, other than war, and cited how Americans could not engage in another Middle Eastern war.  Ryan protested having troops on the ground in Iran but he could not convincingly deny that a military intervention was off the table.

Biden promised that the war in Afghanistan would end in 2014.  Ryan agreed with that date while at the same time criticizing the rigid timetable, citing that the Taliban would see it as an opportunity to wait it out, and then take over the region.  Biden responded that trained Afghan troops would be in control by then, and that America has the backing of its allies for this timetable, an indicator of strength in leadership.

Both candidates differed in their approach to the status quo of Medicare and Social Security, where Biden adamantly refused to alter promised provisions while Ryan adamantly cited the need for reform to maintain sustainability.  The issue of taxes again reiterated how Republicans are blocking an extension of the middle-class tax cuts.  “It’s about time they take responsibility instead of signing pledges to avoid raising taxes,” Biden said of the Republicans.

Despite Biden’s aggressive and sometimes disrespectful behavior towards Ryan with his laughter, unflattering grin, and interruptions, Biden demonstrated a competence in foreign and domestic affairs and asserted his genuine concern for the prosperity of the middle-class.  Although Ryan’s congressional expertise does not compare to Biden’s years of foreign policy experience, Ryan demonstrated a confidence in his knowledge of world and domestic affairs and stressed how he and Governor Romney are committed to serving all Americans, even the 47 percent.

With the election fast approaching, Americans are desperate for peace of mind and less piece of mind.  During the second presidential debate, it would be hopeful if President Obama could remember a very important lesson in leadership – never let them see you sweat! Obama admitted in an interview with Diane Sawyer for ABC News, that he did indeed “sweat” during the first debate.  He said that, “Governor Romney had a good night and I had a bad night” and added “Well, it’s not the first time I’ve had a bad night.  But I think what’s important is the fundamentals of what this race is about haven’t changed.  You know, Governor Romney went to a lotta trouble to try to hide what his positions are.”  Obama continued to compare his performance during the debate to sports.  It’s fine to sweat on the basketball court, but not as a leader of the free world during a debate.  So to coin what Bill O’Reilly might ask, “what say you?” Mr. President. 

President Obama should heed the advice given to corporate women – don’t ever let them see you cry.  Or in the words of an actor, the audience will only know that you messed up if you tell them.  President Obama told Sawyer that he basically messed up.  Those who watched the debate kind of knew that, but then again, his performance could have been a strategy to put Governor Romney off guard for the second debate.  Well now, we obviously know that it wasn’t a strategy.  With the election a few weeks away, gaining the confidence of the American voters will be tough for all four candidates.  Pun intended, which of these four gentlemen will “fit the bill “and get this country headed in the right direction? 

(2012) Linda Stone Cohen All Right Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom, and humility.       Until tomorrow…

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To My Daughter

I’m cleaning dried, moldy, blueberry yogurt from the crevice of my thought it was clean refrigerator as I hear you screeching around the corner pushing your doll carriage which tilts to the left because you banged it against the floor constantly and it finally broke as I told you it would and I wonder is it worth it as you pinch the baby’s toes and apologize and say that you didn’t do it on purpose when we both know that you did do it on purpose and the baby howls and I ponder my existence.  The toys, toys, toys, who should have so many toys and I took bags of toys away from you because you didn’t put them away and you didn’t even notice they were gone and I wonder whose life I’m living as you scream for me to go away when I awaken you in the morning and scream for me to go away when I tell you it’s bedtime and I wonder what it’s all about.  But then I see how you’ve grown and smile with thanks as you draw happy pictures of people and the sun and you pause in your fury through the house to say “excuse me” to the dog and pet her as you accidentally tug on her tail.  Yet I cringe as you climb into the baby’s crib with one leg in and one leg out envisioning your fall and broken legs but you tell me it’s only to play the music on the mobile and that you’ll be careful and won’t fall and I wonder how I’ll get through this as your sister giggles and wiggles while you bond and dance in the crib to “It’s a Small World” and you don’t fall and I manage to survive but I feel that I’ve aged.  Through the craziness of the day and the exhaustiveness of your energy I look at you and wonder who you as you kiss me gently on the cheek saying, “I love you up to the sky Mommy” and I’m reminded who you are and why I’m living this life and know how very much it’s worth it.

(c) 1987, 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.       Until tomorrow…

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Thought for the Day

When you listen to a baby’s laughter, you don’t care what country it’s from, or its religion or ethnicity – it’s just a baby’s laughter.  Simple.

(c) 2012 Linda Stone Cohen All Rights Reserved

Remember that no amount of money can purchase grace, wisdom and humility.              Until tomorrow…

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